With dual nationality but only one language, do you feel inferior to bilinguals?
I have 2 nationalities but I don't speak the second language. I only speak English. It's frustrating to be in the other country because people, especially in the capital, try to discourage me from speaking their language and answer me in English. I put in work to converse with them, struggling with the limited resources (I'm sure the internet is way more helpful if your target language is, in fact, English) online, so I really feel afronted when I'm suddenly hit with English. It's not that I'm struggling to speak or that I seem uncomfortable in a second language - I think people often want to just use me for English practice. And they're usually clearly fluent in English which pisses me off, because in that case, they're not the ones who NEED the practice.
I feel so ashamed when I can't follow an intricate conversation in my target language and it seems like no matter the work I put in, I get left behind. There's always that factor of "oh but everyone wants to learn English, and you know that already, isn't that enough?" because English is not my whole identity, it's only one piece of my nationality and my second language is the other half, without which I feel incomplete. I meet other people of my exact nationality make-up who are fluent in both languages, accentless in both. And I feel so embarrassed that I haven't reached their level, that when someone tries to redirect me to English, I want to explode at them and scream "stop f*cking switching the conversation to English!"
When it comes to my target language, which I love, my overall emotion is shame. Am I the only one who feels like this?