Hard to generalize, how can people all have a same peculiarity attributed to a cultural or ethnic reason.
I knew in “real life” one and only one Japanese woman. She uses to text with other friends on the phone during the whole meal if you invite her for dinner at home. I do not think it’s because she’s Japanese. I think she is is simply very rude.
Hello, I'm Jiyeon from south korea.:)
so,,, passive aggressiveness of Japanese women...!
hm... I never met japanese women who have passive aggressiveness.
But there are passive aggressive people around me.
And honestly it's really difficult when I have problem with them.
Because when I said "Let's solve the problem" or "What did I do wrong?", they said "I'm not mad" or something like that,
And they act like so mad.
Then I don't know what am I gonna do.
Well, In the past I thought what did I wrong, and made my mistake's list. and assumed my fault, and apologized.
but it was really tried to me.
But I understand them at the same time, I mean I also behave like a passive aggressive person sometime.
for example when I'm mad by small thing, I tried to hide my feeling. because I don't want to look like s cheep person.
but they usually notice my bad feeling.
Anyway this is just my opinion and experience. :) Thank you for reading.
I do not know any Japanese women, so I can´t really give an opinion about this. However, in thinking about cultural differences as summarized in the Lewis Model of cultural differences, it makes sense to me that some American men would interpret the cultural differences in emotional expression of displeasure as ¨passive aggressiveness.¨ https://www.crossculture.com/the-lewis-model-dimensions-of-behaviour/ Compare the characteristics that are influenced by culture such as ¨polite, indirect, conceals feelings, never confronts, diplomacy over truth, subtle body language.) I would suspect you ex- would also find Korean women and other cultures Lewis describes as ¨reactive¨ to be ¨passive aggressive¨ for the similar cultural influences.
I think every multi-cultural couple has to confront cultural differences. Some people are able to communicate and empathize and work with differences. Other people are not very good at this. I think the label ¨passive aggressive¨ is a negative way to say ¨avoids the direct verbal expression of negative emotions.¨ An American (or other Western person) who is not culturally sensitive is likely to see it in these terms.
In American culture, men are socialized to hide their feelings of fear and sadness, but are allowed open, direct expression of anger. Some American men convert most all their feelings of sadness and fear to anger-- if you hurt their feelings, what you see is anger. American women, on the other hand, are allowed more expression of sadness and fear, and expression of anger is not seen as ¨ladylike.¨ Is that the same in your culture? Would Japanese men hide their anger less than Japanese women? Or in reality, would both Japanese men and women have a tendency to be seen as ¨passive aggressive¨ to persons socialized to express emotions more directly and openly?