Stepping Back Two dancing partners in the picture are fascinated by elegant footsteps combining forward and backward movement, which illustrates that, just as the caption states, beauty lies in not only forward steps but also stepping back when needed. What’s more, this philosophy of dancing can also be applied to people’s daily life dealing with interpersonal relations. Nowadays, the increasing rate of divorce especially at the infant stage of marriage can be mainly attributed to young people’s impatient and immature handling relations when it comes to trivial conflicts. If they had reflected themselves and take a step backward to understand each other, they would experience more happiness in the prolonged relationships. Another instance involves a regular distinguished businessman who is more likely to regard his challengers as friends rather than enemies. A proper step in competition and taking advantage of the relationship with rivals may lead to a constant progress on individuals’ ability. Based on the above, I suggest that people learn how to put themselves into others’ shoes and to understand the philosophy combing both stepping forward and back in daily life. Only in this way can we create a friendly interpersonal atmosphere and build a harmonious society.

Electronic Products Dependence in Campus As it is shown in the photo, three students are chatting in campus. The boy, in the middle of the other two, is making a show of his new smartphone while others seem to be amazing at the glittering phone and probably envy its famous brand. A common phenomenon revealed by the picture is that adolescents mainly focus their attention on material comforts rather than studying happiness. Bigger and bigger burden taken by young students may be the major reason for this worrying trend. As a response of that, students are bound to relieve the mental stress by playing electronic products such as PSP, MP4, and smartphone. As far as I am concerned, parents and teachers should assume the responsibility of mending the worrying culture in campus. A correct and effective guidance is needed to change the attitudes of students towards studying. If adolescents could feel fun in the experience of learning, they were likely to spend less time in playing smartphone during lessons. So we should make efforts to promote education in a proper way more easily accepted by students and encourage them study on their own.

The Empty-nest Phenomenon As we can see from the picture, an aged grandmother is sitting on a chair which is placed in front of a large mirror. Faced with the image of herself, the old woman feels extremely lonely and says sadly, “My sons are working in the office while my grandsons are studying in the school, leaving me alone at home. It is so lonely.” The problem reflected from the picture is that so many aged people are suffering from the empty-nest syndrome. On the one hand, as social economy rapidly grows, nowadays old people have to retire at earlier age and then stay at home with nothing to do. On the other hand, young people are confronted with more fierce competition both in office and school. As a result, old parents have less and less opportunities to enjoy time with their children. What’s more important, the increasing isolation will further lead to a misery in the empty-nest family. To solve this social problem typified in the above picture, in my opinion, young people should take the responsibility on caring the old. It is not wise to exchange your happiness with families for a promotion or a decent salary. So I think young workers should learn more about what is the true meaning of love, happiness, and duty. Taking care of the old is not only a traditional virtue cherished by Chinese, but also a real way to experience life. In addition, a harmonious family atmosphere may become a strong motivation to make further progress in personal affairs.

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Tryonice.W's notebook entry: May 21, 2011 How few chinese friends there are on italki.com!

Tryonice.W's notebook entry: May 19, 2011 I really wanna give it up. So frastrating today, I am sitting in the classroom with those BEC papers. I found it is too annoying that even I can tell what every word means, well, I cannot understand a single sentence. I have collected all my energy and hold a extremely strong asperation before I came in this room. I had planed well to do some practices in this evening. But now all went away. So wonderful time for doing some learning now! So warm place to stay while I am in cold. Did I really going to give it up? That is a great chanllenge for me but why I am thinking about exiting? I am always a boy with full energy and love chanllenges, am I all the same now? How can I continue? What can suport me? Well, the very problem here is just that I could not find a proper reason to hold me on. Why I must take this exam when I already knew it is no use for me. Do I only seek for a single chanllenge or express my love on spken English? I already certified the error in my plan. I should not have planned to take the BEC exam. And to reflact my self more, I was too ambitious and too anxious for a quick success at that time. That is my majoy problem while not the one giving it up or not. When people get stuck in this dilemma, they often lack for a little bit more strenth to complete the last one step of a handred. It seems that the problem is similar to mine. So I used to blame myself for not being hard-working enough and getting cold feet. A few days in anxity later, I found the real prlblem at last. Though there will be many persons looking down upon me and it also means I spent 475yuan for nothing, all I can do is to accept those and cope with myself to prevent addicting to faults. To give up false pride and certify the right things for me rather than to stick into everything as blind as a bat, is what I learned today.

Tryonice.W's notebook entry: May 12, 2011 Recently, especiallly today and yestday, I felt anxious about my situation. Not only I could not keep working hard, but also I have lost the ragular pace of my life. Though tired, I have no option to give up. If I take action to handle it, I believe everthing ganna be ok. In psycology, an event lead to your evaluation which cause relevant emotion which estimulates your motion. So on this mode I will check what problems I am stuck in. One of my major problems is that I cannot focus on my study. Focus creates reality. But how can I improve my focus when I am studing? I find there are three keys to solving this problem and none of them can be ignored. They “energy and calm”,”preparation and scheme”add on”strong aspiration and perseverance”. Additionally I will make a plan and certify what I must learn while what I can prepare it later. I also have to regain a health pace of life which can bring me so much energy futhermore ensure the excuting of the plan. On the one hand without success of study I am losing confidence which lead to the decrease on my self-integrity. On the other hand I am likely to be stick into internet or computer games to seek for lost heart. Single amusement without mutrtion cause more lack of energy and aspiration while the lack of that in circles cause that I am more self-abandoned. But fotunetly, I have already taken some measures on avoiding it. I deleted all of my computer games and online-TV software. Though when it is come to long perspective what I did was just to prevent me from no-use amusement which could not fundamentally cure me. Thus, I hold it as a beginning. Gradually I will be more important things and be more self-confident. That is vital to my success. The third problem, in fact, has been a rock in my heart nearly two years. I cannot resist the image that I betrayed the pretty girl in my mind. Every time I was studying she showed up spontanously. But gradually I realized that I was just too regretful to ease the pain. Every thing has already become memory. The only image I loved perhaps was not that right girl. So next time I see you, Liuliu, in my mind, I am prone to smile and let it go. This time I really wanna erase that. I am not that brass boy anymore and I will run towards my dream. Recheer me up! Recentl days I prepared so many for English band six test that I must layout my plan. I will spend the mojority of times to focus on study. There are so many barriers in the Principle of Mechanics’learning while I am not afraid of it. I can handle it. Just keep working utimately and see what happens.

Tryonice.W's notebook entry: Apr 27, 2011 On my old and shabbly bicyle which I had previously lost, I’m just hanging outside. Darkness has already covered the sky. When I was young, I used to ride at a high speed to seek for some inspiration. When I fall and out of sorts, just like now, I usually take myself to an unfamiliar place. Then try to find the way out. So apparently, it seems interesting. When you have a destination you are bound to find how you should take.For instance you must chose which way to take and kown how to spend your energy to pedal. But all we can see is just a direction and the work all you can do is just pedalling. Only with your dear bike. So we can easily come to a conclusion that all short cuts are so useless compared to the whole distance. Maybe sometimes you can’t avoid detours, while on the other hand you are able to both come to the end and enjoy much more experience. Riding to a certain place is just like working for your dreams. Detours can’t shorten the distance. If you have a dream, try to ride step by step and believe you’ll make it.

First notebook entry: Wake up my life! WAKE UP MY LIFE! I cannot believe that is true! I was doing an interesting study on our sleep. It was just a verification experiment. During the first night of the experiment, I woke up three times. I insisted a strong thought that I must woke myself before four o’clock on that next morning, which lead to the result that I naturally awake respectively at 2:00, 4:00 and 5:30. This time I fall asleep at 23 p.m., which I cost six hours and a half on my sleep. And things went similarly to the first night. I still fall asleep at 23 p.m., but a slight difference happened to me that I only woke up two times. Thus, also at 4:00 and past 5:30. I was amazed at the easiness when I got up. Last week I was sufferring in feeling hard to get up every morning, when I slept during 23 p.m. to 6 a.m.. Now I know the very problem is just the extra 30 minutes I overslept. I become aware of my sleep duration on my bed. Doctor Kacper M. Postawski said there are sleep circles happens multiply in the duration of people’s sleep and each one of these circles takes about 60 to 100 minutes. We can divide the whole duration into 6 or 7 segments and the more close to dawn the more time Rapid Eye Movement sleep takes up.In other words, the less time deep sleep we can enjoy and we are more likely to wake up. That’s just the reason of that people are more likely to wake up on the morning. So now I can WAKE UP MY LIFE! To work hard during others’ sleep, we can easily get up at 5:30 or even 4:00 to do some reading,listenning and jogging I like. And because of the uselessness fill in the too much circles in our sleep, we can definitely abandon them and it has little impact on the active and efficient work during the day.