There is a reason for your nervous tension. After you find out what is the reason,your nervous tension will just go away. So instead of hiding or fighting with this nervous tension, you may try to look behind it. The reason could be that you are being too hard on yourself, worrying the listener will be impatient(actually it's you who don't have enough patience),or you would blame yourself when you couldn't do good enough etc. The secret is to love yourself more, slow down your breath and tell yourself to take your time, no need to rush. When you are relaxing, you can let what's in your mind naturally flow out, that's a wonderful feeling. One more suggested skill is not to think in Chinese and translate into English when you are conversing with others. It takes longer time. Practise thinking in English in your head in your free time, that helps!

Hi Anny, this Italki site will give you lots of help. http://www.italki.com/knowledge/contribution-Spoken+English.htm

你好Anny, I suggest that first, you need to conquer your nervousness that is apparently making you troubled what to say. yes, it's really hard to speak out what you want to say - despite of having a good grasp in english language - if you are nervous, do you agree? some of my techniques are: * I treat someone as a friend. * go on speaking. If I made a mistake, I just let it be. * it's okay to pause for a while to think what to say next. * I speak together with action. this way, I am able to relay my message clearly. * smile. don't be serious. 加油。。。 :)

Hello Anny, I'm pretty sure is a question of shyness because you are able to write what you want to ask here... So you really need to practice your "speaking and listening skills" and the best way for that is to contact "language partners" or "language teachers" to help you to deal with ... good luck!

Think you for asking the question which also has been bothering me for a long time. And I am very appreciate cherry's advice.