As an English learner, I'll put in my two cents.
During my learning of English, I've asked myself the same question too. I looked up in some books, asked a couple of people, and what I found out was really surprising to me: The English language doesn't have a question word for the concept of "what ordinal number" like some other languages do.
In Mandarin, there's 第幾 or 第几. And if I remember correctly, Japanese and Spanish have a question word like that as well. Therefore, as far as I know, the answer to your question is: No way you can ask a question like that in English, at least not in an easy or natural way.