I feel I'm sliping into her depression...... One of my friends (I call her G) is always complain about her issues to me.But those are just little tiny things, like when asked why not try to wear make up she would got embarrassed and upset because she never tried that,after that G would come to me and tell me about how embarrassed and annoyed about it,well I'm wondering why would she be annoyed and embarrassed.She could just tell they " I don't wear make up because......" she could just tell they the reason why she doesn't wear make up. I have tried to enlighten her but she always ended up with "oh this is bothering me so much..." my advice never worked on her,she was just sitting there keeping complaining about those things without listenning to me.then during those weeks she came to me and repeat the same things,finally I got nothing to offer her, advice analysis I think I tried all I can do to help her out.I got my own life I have my own problme too why can't she just try to solve her problme on her own? I do feel uncomfortable when anyone tries to be too reliant on me.I feel I'm slipping into her own little tiny "problems"...... those people who are struggling for their lives or living in countries surrounded with wars,disease are even trying to make their lives better and hopeful.this is really ironic that some people out there are still keeping complaining about their tiny "problems" 一直很反感过度依赖我的人，每个人都是独立的个体。我可以在你无法自己排解忧伤的时候给予你适当的开导，可是那不代表我就得全天24小时围着你转，我也有我自己的生活，有好多次你居然对我说：“你要多开导开导我，这件事让我很烦心！”。好像这是我的义务一样，该说的我已经说了，至于你自己去仔细想想我说的没有就只有你自己知道了。难道你还没发现我们之间的对话都是我开导你以后，你总是以“哎呀，烦得很”这种模式结束的吗？谈心、开导除了你对我倾诉烦恼、我给你分析问题，给出建议以外，更重要的是你要去仔细想想我说的话，然后修炼内心，很不幸，目前为止你只是对我倾诉烦恼，哪怕我给出了我的开导和建议分析，你依然沉浸在你的烦恼中，那么请问我又有什么必要继续“开导”你呢？交流除了倾诉还需要倾听和理解。同样一个问题非要纠结这么多次吗？“她老是在我面前说穿裙子，化妆的问题来打击我” 多大点儿事儿啊？为什么一定要这么在意别人的看法，老是为别人的看法苦恼？办法很简单，要么坚持自己，要么顺从他人。这是你自己的问题，恕我爱莫能助。这个世界上不是只有你才有烦恼，这么小的事还每天牵肠挂肚的，那那些每天为生计发愁的人，生活在战乱中的人岂不是直接去死好了？有些人老是习惯与看到生活消极的一面，或者说那些“消极”的一面是他们自己加上去的。