You need to care more about what YOU think of you, than what OTHERS think of you. The only person you have to be better than is yourself yesterday. :) What helps to make you feel better about yourself is to set a goal, and then achieve that goal. Goals should be: Specific Measurable Actionable Realistic in Time If you sign up for any informal talking practice with me, I can tell you more about how to set goals, reach your goals, and feel better about yourself!

I agree with Mr. A. It's your life and you should do what is best for you. You cannot live in the eyes of other people. For example, I remember when I went to work in China lots of my friends said "why are you going there?" and I replied "because I want to, I don't want to be 80 years old and regret that I didn't do what I want". So you should go with your dreams and not care what other people think.

Hi Timur, I would like to suggest reading Joseph Murphy who has wise answers to many important existential questions. In his book, The power of your subconscious mind, he says that your thoughts about others are a reflection of you own inner feelings and attitudes. If you wish for others what you desire for yourself, you will be able to attain a more harmonious life. Being generous toward others, will bring blessings into your own reality. Therefore, do not get anxious about what others think of you, if they approve or disapprove, but love them disinterestedly as your kin, or your brothers, and those good feelings will get back, bringing you peace and love.

Hi Timur, I appreciate your question. I believe it's a question that all human beings struggle with...including myself. In my own experience, when I care about what people think, sometimes it's because I need freedom, reassurance, support, appreciation or validation about what I am doing. Sometimes it's because I really care about others and their wellbeing and I want to make sure that my actions show care and consideration for them. Most of the times, it's both: I want to be free to be me, and I want to be supported and appreciated for my efforts AND I want to care and have consideration for others, especially the ones I love the most. I certainly don't want to be free while loosing the love, belonging and connection with the people I care the most about. I think this is the most delicate and yet important balance that we as human beings make all the time. We are permanently trying to find this balance and you are definitely not alone in the struggle. So, if you are struggling to live freely and authentically, while caring for the needs of others, my recommendation is 1) to look inside yourself and identify what needs you are trying to meet (care?love? understanding? freedom?support? consideration?), 2) embrace the feelings that may arise (sadness? grief? anger? frustration? or even relief?). 3) With this new self-awareness, find a strategy that is aligned with your values, so you can start living as freely as authentic as you want. I hope this helps! PS: If you want support in doing this process and finding the strategy that will work best for you, book a trial lesson and we can work it out together. I am a specialist in Compassionate Communication and my passion is to support people live wholehearted, authentic lives, connected to what matters to them the most :)