Friends come from other families and cultures. Different families’ life perspectives are mostly different. If we look for a buddy who is a good fit for us, we will find someone appropriate for our viewpoint. We would like to be assessed by an idea not so distant. In communication circumstances, the friend must be him/herself and, he/her must accept you for who you are. If the friend sees something wrong with you, he/she must recommend the better way to you with a kind attitude. The friend must accept that it could be mutual. I’m not sure what you mean by “assessed by an idea not so distant.” I would also recommend using “they” and “themselves” instead of he/her and him/herself