I AGREE!! you should be yourself, and be comfortable,know your body type, know how to dress for the best effect. i have dated and been with many over the years , and i have changed my looks several times. i have has short hair, and yes loadsof men loved it, look at popstar Pink for example!!!!!!!!!! also i have had my hair colur changed to blonde, men liked it, but i didnt, felt it make me look older, so my conifdence lessened, and hence it had to go!!!! i ahve been slim, but had no confidence, so even if men aske dme out.now i decided to dress for me and live for me, if somebody who im attracted to, sees me and likes me they are welcome to join!!! otherwise, they can go and seek what they are looking for.. i have met men, who have told me on first or second date, that they liek long hair, well i see that as them trying to change me????? and hence they have been got rid of. i would never accept a man who tries to change me'. if im not attractive in his eyes from day 1, then leave it. im not a project.i think its same with women, i have a sort of checklist , i know the basics of what im looking for in a man, tan skin, brown eyes,nice voice, etc, but if a man who was fat came still had those thigns, i wouldnt say i like skinny men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! also although i have that mentallist, somebody could easliy come , who has blonde hair, and blue eyes, and soemthing really amazing, and just blow me away, sweep me off my feet!! its down to the individual what is attractive i think. it angers me when men have this idea about blondes with big boobs, and they are looking, even if the womans face is ugly or she got big teeth, and even if she is not intellgient and she is stupid they still interested?!!!!!!!!!!!!!! crazy hehehehehehhehe