No Best Choice Ever (2) Each of us possess the power to create reasons.When you think about it, it's nuts to believe that the external reasons given to you dictated that you had most reason to pursue the life what others think is good. Instead, you faced alternatives by yourself, and you made reasons for yourself to choose exactly what you want and who you to be. So when we face hard choices, we shouldn't beat our head against a wall trying to figure out which alternative is better. There is no best alternative. Both breaking up a gourd or making a float on it are good choices, the result is on ourselves. You might decide to be a poor teacher with a happy family, and I might decide to be a rich entrepreneur with a busy life. What we do in hard choices is very much up to each of us. The reasons that govern our choices as correct or incorrect sometimes run out, and it is here, in the space of choice-making, that we have the power to create reasons for ourselves to become the distinctive people that we are.

No Best Choice Ever (1) Think of choices you're facing everyday. It might be what to eat for dinner -- rice or noodles -- whether to buy a book or a dress -- or whether to keep or throw away an old stuff. Certainly, we’re making choices everyday and each choice we make matters our lives. This caused a interesting type of mental disease, which is called select phobia, namely, a fear of making choices. Why do we have a fear of making choices? How can we make good choices? We may find the answer in the talk of two ancient scholars. Once Huizi got a gourd as large as five bushel measure. He attempted to make use of it, however, it turned out to be that the large gourd is being too heavy to hold liquids and being too flat to be used as a ladle. So he broke it up. Zhuangzi commented Huizi as a stuffy mind because he believed that he can make a float on the river by this large gourd, open-mindedly and lightheartedly. People today praise Zhuangzi as a wise man, for he had followed the natural law and made a good choice. On the other hand, Huizi has been regarded as a bean counter, greedy and knowing nothing about using large things. The truth is that, somehow, we have been kidnapped by the universally recognized good choices, such as being rich is better than being poor. We are anxious to find the good choices so that we can be closer to the ultimate happy life. Thus, in the fear of making bad choices, we start to reason, to assess the pros and cons between different alternatives. Since the gourd is such a large thing, it seems to be a waste to simply broke it up. However, except the external reason of “large” of that gourd, Huizi also gave us his own internal reason -- large as it is, it is of no use to him. In such a word, broke it up became a rational act, for broke it will surely save a large space. Huizi is not as as stupid as Zhuangzi believe, rather, he had only made his good choice in his own sense.

Is it necessary to be perfect? It’s twelve o’ clock at midnight when she was still doing her homework. Books in her hand, she said to herself, “Come on. Just hold on a little bit longer and finish reciting this paragraph. ” Day after day passed, finally the examination come. She mustered all her strengths to answer every question calmly and carefully. Fortunately, she succeeded. She defeated the “other people’s children” this time. Who’s SHE? She is both you and me. This is a common story of most Chinese children. We grew up together with “the other people’s children”. It seems like that “other people’s children” is the avatars of perfection. He can do anything well while we can’t. Any different answer to the existence of him could lead us down a totally different path. On one hand, some regarded him as the enemy. In this case, the other people’s children will use big frustration to make us fully surrender to his excellence. When we use “I’m afraid I can’t do it well”as an excuse, we are fully caught in the trap of “We are imperfect” and gradually we’ll lose our confidence. On the other hand, some regarded him as a model. They are determined that they can one day beat the other people’s children, better themselves while struggle. Who’s the other people’s children? I am. As well as you are. It’s dramatic that when we are under the pressure of the other people’s children, or rather perfection, we have already become perfection itself. The other people’s child is a model of us and everyone can be the model. This is the model not only of others, but also ourselves. The model tends to be the standard of perfect, and it pushes you to reach the high standard of perfect unconsciously, though it never have an exact height. However, just like we can not become others, it is impossible to reach the real perfect. A professional chess player devoted his life on chess, but he can’t exceed the power of computer algorithm. Would he feel depressed and give up his pursuit just because he can’t defeat the computer and fail to reach the perfection? Of course not. Maybe he will just work with the computer and improve himself. In conclusion, it is impossible and not necessary to be perfect. But thanks to perfection, it provides us a invisible target to pursue. Maybe one day, you’ll surprisingly to find that you have already become a better me.

Is it necessary to be perfect? I'm quite confused with this question. I'm expecting for your answers.

Seeing is not believing ( Hi, evevryone. I particiapated in an English speech competition and the theme of this speech is "Seeing is not believing". This is my speech draft. However, I found this draft somehow a little bit far away from the theme. Can anybody help me to correct the grammar mistakes and make it better? Thank you all.) http://www.italki.com/entry/492542

Seeing is not believing -- a call of real me (speech draft) Recently I attended a party of my primary school classmates. Years of separation made us surprised at each other’s great change, especially when I met a beautiful girl, I even cannot believe that she’s my front desk classmate. How come the previous ordinary girl suddenly possesses such a straight nose and bright eyes? I couldn’t help to show my admiration to her. However, later my classmates told me that she has did the cosmetic surgery. I was shocked. Ladies and gentlemen, what kind of girl do you think is beautiful? Those who with big bright eyes and sweet smile? Indeed, they are beautiful. But not everyone is so lucky to have the genetic advantage. So the cosmetic surgery quickly gained its popularity these days. However, what we saw is only their beautiful face and what is under their face, for instance, their quality and knowledge, still remains unknown. It is true that everyone has their right to pursue beauty, but the definition of beauty should not be distorted or narrowed. Beauty does not only represents one’s good look, but also one’s rich inner beauty. What really accounts is the inner beauty of the “real me”. An experienced lady would be confident at any big occasion; a knowledgeable lady would speak with fervor and assurance when she’s making a speech; a humanitarian lady would demonstrate her attraction all the time. All of them catches people’s eyes and wins the admiration, thus they can be regarded as pretty as well or maybe even more beautiful. A woman with her marvelous inner abilities can be beautiful and conversely a good-looking lady without endeavor and persistent is meaningless. In fact, the inner beauty and the superiority in appearance are complementary. Madame Curie is said to be a beautiful female scientist. Her well-known beauty and great contribution to the field of physics and chemistry were so sensational. Her beauty is adding brilliance to her splendid achievements and her success made her beauty more legendary. This is the perfect idol of “real me”. The cosmetic surgery could only help us change what we look like, but the temperament cannot be changed by the surgery. What we should do is to remain the trueness of ourselves. Let us go back to ourselves and confirm what our real destination is and enrich our inner beauty. One day, people would not only appreciate your seeing but also believing your ability. One day, seeing would get rid of its superficial definition and make everyone believing. Thanks you!

Can anybody help me correct this Chinglish paragraph and make it like real English? There was a time that microblog first appeared and quickilly controlled the market of online social network. At that time, it seems to be an unchangeable fact that Microblog has attracted the largest number of users. However, there is another app that even surpass microblog, yes, it is wechat, who has explored another way. The Circle of Friends in Wechat makes use of the sense of intimacy between friends and gives their users a more home-like space. It has also catched the festival atmosphere of Chinese people and created games like “catch the red envelop”, which not only attracted Chinese people of all ages, but also made the wechat payment being equally matched with alipay.