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Do you know what do you look for in a partner?
Do you know what do you look for in a partner?
The most of people used to choose a partner based on the wrong characteristics, like status, wealthy, attractiveness, excitement, and so on.
This behavior can be described as a long-term failure because the right values of a real relationship are not these ones, but kindness, loyalty, understanding, dialogue, tolerance etc.
Reports have shown that couples that share similar values, attitudes forward life, tastes, interests, expectations, and perspectives when nurturing children are much more likely to don’t divorce.
Contentiousness, which is not seen as an important attribute when meeting someone, can prove to be an important ingredient for a harmonic relationship in long-term.
Probably, emotional stability plays one of the most important roles to keep a couple together and happy.
Researchers found two main attitudes toward relationships. The first one is from people who believe in a perfect partner and a destiny. This group use to try to hide imperfections and problems thinking they could be signs that the relationship is not the ideal one. The second group believe in changing the imperfections and problems in positive outcomes by giving attention, tolerance and understanding. They think relationships are not perfect, and each partner can work to improve the convivence.
Probably all of us have an idea of which kind of person will best fit with us. But unfortunately, when meeting a person, our rational part loses to our emotional one, and we end up choosing what we feel familiar. It can include partners that resemble our last ones, or our parent's behavior when we were a child, causing a repetition of negative patterns that seems we cannot be freed from.
The first thing to do in this case is freed yourself from false needs and expectations, because you are attracted by aspects of other people that you wish to have in yourself, hoping that that person will fulfill that lacking.
Instead of looking anxiously for a perfect partner, engage with life and accept the gifts along the way. So, it will be more probably you will find someone more likely to you because you are being yourself, and not pretending to be who you don’t are.
Finally, don’t hurry; allow the relationship unfold naturally, enjoying all the way, because relationships are not a destiny but a journey.
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How to maximize your time?
I believe the traditional time management that focuses on how to do more things in less time is restricted to repetitive and not creative tasks. So, I will describe below some ways you can maximize your time in more complex environments that may be the case of a larger number of people.
Firstly, it is more important to choose what not to do than what to do. So, keep in mind true objectives and purposes of your work, and establish short and medium-term goals that will help you to distinguish between tasks and projects you should not undergo and those ones that can be eliminated. Then, decide what can be delegated to save your time, and, on long-term, what can be automatized to save future time.
Secondly, keep a list of all your tasks and decrease the emotional tension caused by the feeling that you are not aware of them all. So, at the beginning of your day, highlight the tasks you will perform that day, in order from the most urgent and important down. Be realistic and stick the time each task should be fulfilled. If possible, simplify and give you the permission to be more simplistic at not important tasks.
Thirdly, before beginning each task, think and visualize the result you expect from that, as well evaluate whether the results were achieved or not at the end. And when doing them, keep some toughness to interruptions you may have, giving yourself the permission to not reply, delegate, or reply latter any inquire, according to the case.
Furthermore, there are excellent practices to improve your mental capacity and emotional balance like meditation (see the mindfulness one), exercises and creative leisure, that should be harmonically added to your daily tasks list.
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How accelerate language learning.
Surely, it is not easy to learn a language you had not been learning since you were a child. This process used to be difficult, intricate, challenging and, sometimes, boring.
Fortunately, there are techniques that can make the learning easy, and even fun. For instance, the multi-intelligence concept developed at Harvard University proposes that it is possible to learn quickly if the teaching process matches the preferred student's learning style.
These are self-learning techniques that really work. It is your task to discover which best match your preference.
1. At first, learn the 100 most used words of the new language. Normally, these words represent about 50% of the words used in speaking and writing of a language;
2. Keep a continuous grammar learning: only the practice will not give you the confidence needed for a good grammar and vocabulary use. So, it is important to choose a grammar book or a method that will go along with your learning process.
3. Track your vocabulary learning: adopt the arguably efficient flash-cards method to ingrain the new words in your brain. Focus on learning the most used worlds first down to the less used ones.
4. Blend funny content with grammar and vocabulary study: since the beginning, you can enjoy the results of your progress by reading of internet content, watching to programs, and listening to music in your new language. It is recommended the use of a translator, as Google Translator, when you do it to a better understanding.
5. Speak with natives: when you gain some confidence it is time to speak with natives of your new language, like tutors and teachers. This is a way to test your knowledge and fix possible mistakes you are doing.
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How to get fit?
Nowadays, more people aim to get fit to improve health, both physical and psychological, gain strength, and keep their body fit. At the same time, a part of this group report having difficulties to reach these goals. So, how to get fit?
The first step is the hardest one. It is necessary having enough motivation and meaningful goals to keep on track. Thus, the first recommendation is to have inspiring and strong reasons to get fit.
The second step is establishing a routine of eating right along with a cardio and strength exercises program when the help of a nutritionist and a personal trainer can lead to better results.
Eating right means cutting high caloric food while reducing from 10 to 30 percent the total diary calorie intake. An extreme calorie reduction can be harmful by lowering the body metabolism and should be avoided.
A cardio exercise program can be maximized with the ‘High-Intensity Interval Training’. This program intercalates high-speed exercises when the hearth frequency reaches the maximum recommended, followed by 1 to 2 minutes of jogging for about 30 minutes, at least 3 times a week.
And last, the strength exercises program consists in using the main muscles groups up to its strength capacity, lifting weight or the own body weight, during sessions of 30 minutes, at least 2 days a week.
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Why to Volunteer?
These days more people are interested in volunteer in a wide range of subjects. But why the number of volunteers is increasing along with the number of ONGs that offer opportunities to these volunteers?
A relevant reason is to exchange the individual isolation way of life to a life with stronger connections with other people, developing friendships and felling as a part of this community.
Another important issue is improving health. Some researches have shown that volunteers have a better health compared with no volunteers. This is based on the fact that being aware of others’ problems breaks the cycle of self-worries and anxiety. Thus, volunteers turn to be more tolerant and receptive to new things, giving less importance to the comfort zone.
One of the main reason to volunteer is to make difference in others’ live by taking actions to solve problems and supply others’ needs. These realizations boost the volunteer’s self-esteem, leadership skills and self-confidence.
Volunteers also benefit from a career advantage as researches have demonstrated that recruiters tend to consider volunteering more important than personal appearance and social status. In fact, these researches also had shown that volunteers use to be more flexible, tolerant and have a better approach toward problems.
Finally, volunteers show a better motivation in life, purpose sense, and they feel as a part of their community, confident in giving and receiving help, one from others, in their needs. Regarding all here explained, volunteering may really make difference in the quality of life of individuals and communities.
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