Master Xingyun Talks About the Relationship Principles of Couples Xingyun=星云 (Xing=star; yun=cloud) As the Buddhist population increases, some young people hold Buddhism-fashioned weddings in temples

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Master Xingyun Talks About the Relationship Principles of Couples Xingyun=星云 (Xing=star; yun=cloud) As the Buddhist population increases, some young people hold Buddhism-fashioned weddings in temples. I have met some of these who asked me to be the chief witness at their wedding ceremonies. I usually would tell them the following principles (truths): How to be a good husband? Keep these in mind: 1.Take less money with you; 2. Eat supper at home; 3.Engage in social activities with your wife; 4. Be humorous and speak comforting words. The four sentences are to say: a husband shouldn’t take much money with him because sometimes with much money we’ll be easily induced to commit sins; a good husband should go home for supper because family is important and he can’t engaged himself in business or social activities only; if there is a social activity, a husband should take his wife. A couple should often go with each; a good husband, as the head of family, should have a sense of humor, put on stern face only when it’s necessary, sometimes take it easy, tell a joke, and say something that can comfort and thank his wife who is busy with hard housework and children who is often uneasy too. If he acted this way, his house would be filled with happy and comfortable aura all the time. On the other hand, a wife should also keep these four sentences in mind: 1. Family is a paradise; 2. Cook delicious food; 3.Be hardworking and thrifty; 4.Do compliments without secrets. A good wife would manage her home into a paradise. Don’t let husband off work feel the house is a mess. The most import thing is to cook delicious food. Some said “One should grasp a man’s stomach before control his heart.” As long as he eats well, he’ll spontaneously come home on dinner time. A housewife is hardworking and thrifty. She should act as a mother, sister and courtier, i.e. take care of husband like a mother to her son; respect husband like a sister to her elder brother; serve husband like a courtier to her king, or rely on husband like a wife, according to different circumstances. Do compliment without secrets. Praise husband often and don’t hide secrets or money. In accordance with these, a couple would definitely have a great relationship. Therefore, the couple relationship principles are: Four for husband: 1.Take less money with you; 2. Eat supper at home; 3.Engage in social activities with your wife; 4. Be humorous and speak comforting words. Four for wife: 1. Family is a paradise; 2. Cook delicious food;

28 mrt. 2014 06:08

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Actually the ceremony is for free and it's a quiet, small one. They're just two Buddhists who go there, and vow in front of Buddha that they'll be a couple comforming to Buddhists tenets (There'are tenets for couples). That's all. It's not that kind of our routine life.

How to be a good husband? Just keep these in mind:

1.Take less money with you; [Not with the times... he can still carry a credit or an ATM card]

Well, he can just take money without credit card. Many Chinese people don't take cards.

2. Eat supper at home;

3. Engage in social activities Spend quality time with her your wife;

4. Be humorous and speak comforting words Smile and speak softly and sweetly.

The four sentences are to say: Too much money in hand tempts a husband into shouldn’t take much money with him because sometimes with much money we’ll be easily induced to commit sins;

I don't think I can go on correcting this essay because I don't believe in them even though they hold a grain of truth. It is very male chauvinistic and stereotype on both sides. For example, both should not have sourpuss faces. The tired husband should not come home to a blacken faced wife and neither should the tired from her chores wife to see a moody husband coming back from work. Both should be pleasant. What happened to 夫妻敬如賓 concept?

I know what you mean. It's very easy for Buddhists to be such stereotypes because we don't have sourpuss faces in any condition. You should meet more Buddhists. Sometimes we're tired and have problems but smiles remain on our face because anger is no longer our issue. We'll listen to the wise masters and the problems then will be solved, so no room for worries. Anger breaks our tenet, so our daily practice includes anger management (not control). There are really many Buddhists who don't easily get angry inside and some even don't have a subtle resent. We'are pleasant because nothing can make us unpleasant. It's very natural because we know our flaws, the life rule (law) and where anger comes from (know something not well enough) .Does what I said solve your doubts? You're more than welcome to ask more. Even some Chinese people don't understand, so don't worry, I'm not sensitive.

29 maart 2014

Master Xingyun Talks About the Relationships Principles of between Couples

Xingyun=星云 (Xing=star; yun=cloud)

As the number of Buddhist population believers increases, some young people hold asked for Buddhist-fashioned style weddings in temples. [I guess even monks need money! This would never be allowed in true Buddhism. These sort of activities pollutes the sanctity of the place when one of the tenents is to escape the "color" of this world.] I have met some of these them who asked me to be their chief witness at their wedding ceremonies. I usually would tell counsel them the following principles (truths):

How to be a good husband? Just keep these in mind:

1.Take less money with you; [Not with the times... he can still carry a credit or an ATM card]

2. Eat supper at home;

3. Engage in social activities Spend quality time with her your wife;

4. Be humorous and speak comforting words Smile and speak softly and sweetly.

The four sentences are to say: Too much money in hand tempts a husband into shouldn’t take much money with him because sometimes with much money we’ll be easily induced to commit sins;

28 maart 2014

Yes, that's why Master Xingyun gives suggestions. Some would practice the suggestions while others wouldn't, although people's decisions often decide their future. Couple relation is the foundation of a family. .:)

28 maart 2014

Right rules, I fully agree. Unfortunately in reality, everything is opposite :-). But, you are right, we must aspire to perfect relations.

28 maart 2014

3.Be hardworking and thrifty; 4.Do compliments without secrets. This article is translated from qq.com. Hope my limited language skill don't prevent you from enjoying such words of wisdom.

28 maart 2014

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