sending condolences to ex's mother

I need some opinions.

 

I just heard a very sad news from my ex's colleague, whom I know as well, that his mother got involved in an accident and passed away.

 

It was all of sudden and very big one that he's now even allowed to be off from work for unlimited time.

 

my question is if I can write him a few words, such as I was very glad to see her even for once, may she rest in peace and I would be there for him anytime he needs me... or should I just better shut up because I might only annoy him.. ?

 

Our relationship was not especially so long one. because of many difficult factors we decided to be separated, considering when it got really serious, it would be more difficult and sadder to break up as time.. I used to be his colleague as well. I am just really so worried about him but at the same time I do realize it I am the one who's better not doing anything with him..although I know the most about him among colleagues.. 

 

what would you do? any comments highly appreciated. thanks.

eating a product before paying at supermarket?

Hi, I have one question to everyone.

 

Is it acceptable in your country to eat the product before you pay at supermarket?

 

I am from Japan and heard that one Japanese guy said in Japan many people consider it almost as bad as stealing and think like it should never ever happen (so do I), but in other countries people might not see it a nice behavior but still won't accuse it so bad. Is it true? Don't people see it real crazy? Does it happen often in your country? Is it really okay as long as they will pay in the end? I've lived in Germany for more than 3 years but never seen such people. 

 

In my opinion, supermarket is not made for eating .. Imagine that everyone starts biting vegis and putting it in their bag with juice running off or sb might even put it back.. It will be such a big mess. 

 

Tell me your opinion and experiences!

Meine Große Liebe nach Düsseldorf "Meine Große Liebe nach Düsseldorf" Es geht um meine Meinung zur ideale Stadt in Deutschland, die ich nach das 3 jahrige Leben bekommen habe. Zu allererst bin ich Japanerin und Hotel Management Studentin an der internationale FH. Das heißt, ich studiere auf Englisch und bin doch keine Austauschstudentin oder keine Deutschliteratur Studentin, mein Studium hat nichts mit Deutschland. Trotzdem mag ich das Leben in Deutschland, weil alles immer .. uhm, soger meistens in Ordnung ist! In den letzten 3 Jahre wohne ich immer in den Städte am Rhein, wie Bonn, ein kleiner Dorf, wo ich die einzige Japanerin war, und Düsseldorf. Nach allem mag ich Düsseldorf so viel, dass ich in Zukunft da eingewöhnen möchten werde. Ich musste letztes Jahr da verlassen, als ein 6 Monate lang Praktikum abgeschlossen wurde aber ich ereinnere mich immer noch an die großartige Erfahrung bei beide der Arbeit und dem Leben. Der großte Grund, weshalb ich sie mag ist ihrer Reichtum in ihre Kleinheit. Die Stadt ist eigentlich nicht so groß aber hat drinnen viel anzubieten und alles is leicht erreichbar. Wie ihr wüsstet, hat die Stadt nicht nur die großte Japanische Gemeinde aber auch sehr kosmopolitische Atmosphäre, schöne Straßen, der schöne Rhein, der sieht ganz verschiden aus von andere Städte. Die japainsche Gesellschäfte helfen mir auch doch viel, denn ich kein Heimatweh haben muss. Es gibt alles, was ich brauche, um im Ausland weit von mein Land wohl zu leben! ((Köln ist auch natürlich sehr große Stadt aber nicht so schön wie Düsseldorf. Das ist soger für das Nachtleben und einbisschen ermüdend für mich. Mir ist bewusst, es gibt zwei Menschen, ein für Ddorf, ein für Köln.. also ich rede hier über Köln nicht mehr! aber ich trinke Kölsch lieber als Altbier.. vielleicht kommt eines Tages andere Notebook darauf. XD )) Abschließend lässt sich sagen, dass ich jetzt mein Deutsch viel verbessern muss, um in Deutschland, besonders in Düsseldorf zu wohnen und arbeiten. Ich freue mich auf eure Kommentare und Korrekturen, rede auch gerne bei PM :) Mika

What led you decide to live in another country? question for those who live away from your homeland.

Hello everyone! I have one question for those who left your country and live abroad for a really long term, which is:

 

What led you decide to live in another country?

 

I'm now facing with this one major life decision and would love to have some opinions from "pioneers". My concern is how difficult it will be to live and work as foreigner separately from family. I think it’s always difficult everywhere in the world to get really settled in a foreign country. What would you think what kind of person should/shouldn’t live abroad? What would be necessary?

 

Here's my dilemma:

I'm 22, originally from Japan and finishing hotel management in bachelor degree at an int'l university in Germany this autumn. It's been already more than 3 years since I came to this country. 

After getting used to Germany a lot in terms of the language, life-style and climate, it is really hard to leave and I love them more than Japanese ones. Japan is very different from here but it's my homeland. I could go back to life there anyway but I don't really want it. However, to be realistic, everyone says and I also believe that I could expect a better position and benefit more if I go back and start my career in Japan as my background is very unusual to them. What I find really important when living away from your country is to have an ability to get paid fairly compared to local people so that you can make a life there on your own. If I won’t be picky, I could do anything for life in Germany but I doubt it’ll be difficult to find such a fair job. In my opinion, loving the second country does not become an enough reason to live there. Or do I concern too much?

(While I’ve been so unsure about my future, my bf left me to be afraid of breaking up after a long time as I might go back to Japan. This makes me think it more necessary to be independent financially and socially. I don't have anyone who can effect my decision.. XD)

 

Thank you so much for viewing this discussion and any comments would be highly appreciated.

 

Mika