Here is a scenario;
All the people are older adults.
Your step-brother's wife invites your sister and her husband to her birthday party which is in the same town as you.
You are not invited! You have not fallen out with them. You do not know why they did not ask you.
Your sister and husband are actually staying with you in your house for a holiday as they live in another country, but they are going to the party and do not even say to you why are you not invited?
Would you ask your sister why do you think I am not invited? Would you just stay silent? or some other option?
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In this scenario I would be jumping for joy for not getting an invitation, because I hate parties and I'm always pushed to go (,") Yet, let's imagine I like going to parties; I find myself agreeing with Berze's option.
I would ask, because in some cases invitaions are meant to include everybody in the household. If I weren't invited, I'd make my own plans and ask the host for an explanation at a later time. They may have just forgotten or they have something against me that I ignore.
In any case, I would make my own plans and not spoil everyone's mood.
I'd gatecrash haha
I would be disappointed but accept I wasn't invited, possibly make special plans to not sit home alone sad, and leave your stepsister to deal with the awkwardness of having possibly been rude, in your case, because you are their host. Take the high road.
I know it's harsh, but you are not owed an explanation, people invite who they want to their birthday, and saying anything will just create drama.
Your sister and her husband have technically the option to not go, as to not be rude towards you, their host, but it's better to not expect them to do it. High road.
Yeah I might ask my sister's opinion (in a mild or witty way to avoid making the sitatuation irritating.)
It's not a big deal for me, but if it was I would prefer to talk about it with my brother's wife. Silence just make the situation more ambiguous.
