Hello! My answer to your question would be to do both! It is good to have your friends input in what you have to say, but it is also good to have hose raw opinions of others that might not know you that well, or people you know who are brutally honest with you. In a way it might be judging, but it is not necessarily bad in this case. This is because you want an honest opinion for advice. In the end you are th one making the choice, and really choosing what advice you really connect with and follow through with. Hope this is clear and helpful!