bear/ put up with/ stand something Can they be used interchangeably when we indicate being able to accept something unpleasant? For example " My mother can't bear/ put up with/ stand waste, so she always makes me eat everything on the plates". Are these three options all correct in the sentence? Thanks for your time.

If I could go back in my life 2 I'd follow my heart and care less about other people's eyes because things always turn out good when I listen to my inner voice. There're many times when I tried to make a choice and then I got lost by the different advice from my friends and family. Some advice might seem wise but it's probably not what you really want since nobody can understand all your feelings, thoughts and desires, except yourself. If you take those so-called wise suggestions and always play it safe, you'll miss out on lots of fun in life and feel regret. Life is short so I admire those having the courage to pursue what they really want instead of those who live someone else's life even if it looks successful.

If I could go back in my life 1 I'd spend more time developing friendships because friends are those whom you can always turn to when you need help or feel down. When I was younger, I was so valuing my time that I often neglected other's feelings. Until lots of my friends drift me away I didn't realize I was wrong. Now, I've learnt how to appreciate those who mean something to me and how to be grateful for any help I get. I suppose you won't truly understand this until you lose a few friends or are neglected by others.

Fear of Failure sometimes, I'm afraid of hearing compliments because I hate to let people down and other people's expectation always puts me under stress. I think perfectionism is a disease, which makes you have trouble ending every work so you're always in anxiety. If you can take failure well, then you're able to enjoy the process and therefore wouldn't push yourself too hard. Positive thinking is an ability that I admire more than anything.

Do you believe in international marriages? The other day, my English friend Daniel shared good news with me that he is married. I was very happy for him but surprised that his wife isn't English but Lebanese. They met on a website called match and saw each other in person after several weeks' talking and then got married after 8 months. Daniel and I have been friends for many years. He is a serious guy so I don't think he would do that impulsively yet his marriage still sounded crazy to me. The obvious reason is the language barrier. since you can't fully express yourself in a foreign language, having a deep talk with your spouse can be a difficult thing, which would cause misunderstanding, not to mention the custom and culture differences. On the other hand, marring a foreigner can be a good thing. You can always find something to learn from your spouse, including different languages, cultures, etc. From this point of view, intermarriages are more fun than normal ones. Do you believe in international marriages or Is there any chance that you would marry a foreigner?

A Pleasant Sunday Yesterday, I went to Shanghai for shopping with my friend Jiana. We looked around and tried on a lot of clothing and then we walked into a decent cafe for lunch. Over lunch, We talked about what's going on in our lives. Jiana told me she's had a crush on one of her coworkers but are't sure if the guy has the same feeling for her so she's tried not to show her interest in the guy. I guess it's a little game that most women and men like to play. They would hold back their feelings and wait the other person to make the first move though they are both interested in each other I talked to her something about my work also. After one year of working , I learnt and changed a lot. I'm not as stubborn as I used to be and I am used to my job now. Time pasted very quickly and I had to leave after catching up. However I was feeling happy for the purchases I took back home.

make/have someone do something Could you tell me the difference between the two phrases? Thanks :) Example -When you walk under a ladder, you will have a can of paint fall on top of you. -When you walk under a ladder, you will make a can of paint fall on top of you.

Personal Opinions about Courtesy When I was a kid, my parents corrected me that I should greet my teacher with " Hi Ms /Mrs XX "instead of just saying " hi teacher" with no referring to their family names, which are less polite. After I became a teacher myself, however, I found not many students follow the rule. My students give me calls once a while for absence. On the phone, some of them just ask away " where are you? I want you to sign on my request letter "or in a better way by adding " Hello teacher". There were many times that I had the urge to correct and tell them that I have a name and it's not called TEACHER. On the other hand,I feel it shouldn't be something taught at university. It's common courtesy everybody can learn from their surroundings. I suppose that's a weird situation I have with my students.

A Funny Thing Happened to me One night, I was walking on the campus by myself. Suddenly a guy came to me and said hello. I can barely see his face because it's dark and there was no light on the street. He said he had come across me many times around the university and had observed me without my noticing for a while so he asked if I could exchange my phone number with him and even start a relationship. It came out of the blue and got me embarrassed. I asked if he was a student. He replied yes and told me it was his second year.I also introduced myself to the strange student but when I told him I wasn't a student but a teacher at the college, the guy got shocked and immediately ran off. I suppose it's a more embarrassing situation to him than me. I don't recall what he looks like but sometimes I wonder If he would still observe me when he runs into me.