Yes, generally we would do this. Yes, it is possible to still use "and" for the negative, but the meaning sways a bit more towards the "both together" side when using "and" in the negative. Both the positive and the negative sides are unclear regarding if you like/dislike them both individually, or if it's the pairing of them that you like/dislike. But the negative side leans a bit more towards the pairing than the positive side does - just a little bit - and the word "or" solves this problem. For example, "I don't like apples and oranges" can mean you don't like either, but it can also mean you don't like them together but may be happy with either one separately; where as "I don't like apples or oranges" makes it very clear that you don't like either one individually. The same lack of clarity exists on the positive side, but a bit less strong there. For example, "I like apples and oranges" would usually be understood to mean you like them both individually, but it can also potentially mean you like the pairing of them together. To distinguish between these two potential meanings, we can use extra words, for example "I like apples with oranges" confirms the pairing while "I like apples and I like oranges" confirms the separation. Changing "don't like" to "hate" works fine. But hate is a stronger word - bear this in mind.

Yes, it's true that in negative sentences, native English speakers often use "or" instead of "and" to clearly express that neither item applies. For example, the sentence "I don't like apples or oranges" means you dislike both. Using "and" in that case — "I don't like apples and oranges" — can sound awkward or unclear, because it might suggest you only dislike the combination of the two, not each one individually. That’s why "or" is more natural and typical in negative statements. However, when you use a verb like "hate", the sentence is not grammatically negative even though the meaning is negative. So "I hate apples and oranges" is completely correct and natural. You are saying you hate both. If you wanted to express a grammatical negative with "hate", you would say "I don't hate apples or oranges", meaning you don’t hate either one. So yes, the "and/or" switch applies in grammatically negative sentences, not simply in emotionally negative ones.

It would be okay to say "and" or "or" in negative especially if you emphasize the "and", it can be common. Using "or" sounds more natural though. Changing to "hate" then I would use "and" after, but "I don't hate" I could use both "and" or "or".

Interesting question, Anastasia! Using "and" would work just fine. But there is also a difference in the tone. From my perspective as a native speaker, using "or" seems stronger to state that you don't like the first thing, and you also don't like the second thing! While using "and" just doesn't seem as strong to me. As a native speakers, here's what I'm thinking when you say that: I like apples and oranges. → "Hmm, okay. That's fine." 🙂 I don't like apples or oranges. → "Geez! I wonder if she likes any fruits!" 😅 I hope my way of answering your question helps.