Are You Married?

I've been studying English on iTalki since the summer of 2016. Over that time, many men have sent me messages requesting to be a learning partner. The chats on-line have inevitably started with the same question: "Are you married?"

When I answered, "Yes," I then distinctly noticed that their interest seemed to stop and the chat between us quickly faded out. Often, the very next day, they disappeared. So, in the future, I think I should reply with, "I'm married, but if you don't mind, text me." However, it sounds weird though, doesn't it?

After more than a year, I realized that the men who suddenly disappeared were not that smart even though they were good-looking. Even so, if they were looking for an efficient way to date a woman, a way which did not to waste their time, a way which provided them with a lot of opportunities, and a way which allowed them to easily disappear, I would say, in a sense, by using iTalki, they definitely had some degree of intelligence. But, they also lost the opportunity to have a nice friendly partner for learning.

Or..., they really didn't need a learning partner in the first place! Oh! Men!

Hi Chizako! Good job! Whatever changes that I’ve made were merely done to allow your sentences to sound more natural to my native ears, for clarity, and for ease of reading. Apologies if I’ve misinterpreted. I hope that this helps you. J.

*As an aside, I may not always correct your postings, but I do enjoy reading them! I also have to mentioned that I have had similar things happen to me, but most definitely, not to the degree that you or any other woman experiences. Given human nature, I suppose that it is, sadly, to be expected ...

Are You Married?