外国人说: "There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it."(Oscar Wilde) 生活里有两个悲剧:一个是没有得到我们想要的,另外一个是得到了.(王尔德) 中国人说: 老子：“祸兮福之所倚，福兮祸之所伏。”

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Yes. the more you love, the more you hurt. the more you hurt, the more you hate. and one day. once you are covered from the hurting. the love and hate all disappear. isn't it?