I suggest you decide early in your life to give up looking for your ideal spouse and fall back to just a kindly man. I mean before too late. There will be only old and poor man left, after your kindly man.

After a long time communication,if my boyfriend gave me the sense of safety,responsibility,also trust,i will dicide to marry him. Besides,both of us must be having mutual affinity.   Of course it is a idealgoal,if  i could not find so perfect man,at the same time,i become older, i can accept kindly man.

I got married about 10 years ago, we had a traditional marriage , something that is almost impossible these days . we didn't know each other a lot. but today I'm happy that I have married with my husband . I love him and can't imagine my life with another man.I think commitment to married life is something that is found rarely these days and my husband has this commitment.

LOL I like your comment Joon. That might be true. thanks.

Yes that's true. I might accept just kindly man after all haha.