I think this one is mainly for 2-person activities, for example if a boxing match was boring, one guy could say it takes two to tango, meaning the other guy needs to try also, because only 1 person trying isn't enough to make it an exciting match. Or if there is a lot of noise because 2 people are arguing, of course there would be no argument if there's only 1 person doing it. But 1 person can make a mess in a kitchen by himself I think. So if I was cooking with my girlfriend and the kitchen became a mess I would probably use this idiom instead: "too many cooks" (spoil the broth, or make a mess)