Nobody can tell you which one to say. The choice of "it", "this", or "that" reflects your internal cerebral activity rather than external reality. Since nobody knows how you are thinking, nobody can tell you which one to say.
When you say "this", you are thinking of the thing, whatever it may be, as being identifiable and close to you in some sense. Metaphorically, it is as if you could hold the thing in your hand.
When you say "that", you are thinking of the thing as being identifiable and removed from you. It is as if you could point towards the thing.
When you say "it", you are simply thinking of the thing as being identifiable.