A Simple Practice to Try Today
Here’s a small 5-minute exercise I use with many of my clients — women like you who’ve spent years studying English but still feel blocked when it matters most.
Meet the Speaker
Sit comfortably.
Close your eyes for a moment. Take a deep breath — in through your nose, out through your mouth.
Let your shoulders drop. Feel the air move through your body.
Picture your next English conversation.
Maybe it’s a meeting, an interview, or even a casual chat.
Imagine yourself in that space. See the people, hear the sounds.
Listen for the usual thought:
“How do I sound?”
“What if I make a mistake?”
And then — gently — replace it with:
“Who is speaking?”
Meet her.
Who is she — this version of you that already speaks clearly, calmly, with presence?
How does she sit? How does she breathe? How does she look at people?
Now, say one simple sentence out loud.
It can be anything:
“I know what I’m talking about.”
“I’m ready to express myself.”
“My English is good enough for my ideas.”
Feel the difference. It’s not in the grammar. It’s in the energy behind it.
Reflect.
How did your voice sound? How did your body feel?
That version of you — that’s the real speaker. She’s been there all along.
Many women I meet tell me they’ve spent a decade chasing “perfect English.”
And every new course promises that this time, they’ll finally feel confident.
But true confidence doesn’t come from mastering every rule.
It comes from remembering who you are before the rules.
The English you’ve been searching for isn’t outside you — it’s inside the version of you that already knows how to speak, lead, laugh, and connect.
You don’t need to become fluent to feel whole. You need to feel whole to become fluent.
So, next time you find yourself asking, “How do I sound?” — pause.
Ask instead, “Who is speaking?”
