hello everyone, really i don't know how can i start ?

 iam so bad in speaking and listening , i have to stay thinking before i speak and when someone talks to me i have to make him repeat more and more to understand what he says

so, iam asking for your advice if any one had this problem or anything like to advise me what sould i do to get over this problem

thanks in advance

and, if you have any comment about my writing, grammer or anything please don't hestitate