Hi, Anna. Thanks for sharing such a deep relationship of yours. I agree with everyone else's contradicting answers, because I think there is no right or wrong decision. I think any decision you make could end up being positive or negative. And to put more thought out there (for you to consider), here's my contradicting advice:
Yeah, like the men said,......if he's gone; he's gone. Move on. He broke up with you for a reason. Maybe it's best to keep your distance. And yes, there are still a billion of different guys out there who can treat you better. Don't waste your time on someone who doesn't love you or tried to keep his distance by going abroad. You being yourself should already be enough for your man; you shouldn't have to work harder to make him love you. Really. Now be opened to other guys; talk to them. No one has a designated partner; anyone can be your partner. Stop closing yourself in a box. Stop living in the past. Stop reading the same (book) chapter over and over; turn to the next chapter.
Now. Here's the contradicting flip side:
I also wouldn't know what to do, but I'd consider the facts and my feelings. Is he single? Married? Has a girlfriend? Do you still have feelings for him/like him/love him/still confused? If he's single (no girlfriend/wife) and you still have a slight interest in him, then it would be nice to get in touch with him and get all your questions/confusions/feelings off your chest, so you could confirm whether you really want to move on or try to pursue him, again. But if you visit him at the hospital, don't come off too strong. Meaning, if he's conscious, don't be quick to get your questions/concerns answered. Just be in the moment. Take care of him. Make sure he eats. Assist him. Maybe even silence is the best at that moment. ..................
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If he seems angry/sad/upset/negative to see you, then don't use the same attitude back. He's already hurt (physically/mentally/spiritually), that's why he's there; don't hurt him, again. Be calm. Show him love and care no matter how hard, because love is....(1 Corinthians 13:4-8) <-- look that up. :)
If he's married (or has a girlfriend), then......that is different. You'd need to respect that fact. Like, it's probably best if the person who sees him at the hospital is his wife/girlfriend. Maybe get your answers/curiosities after the hospital...
Or stop living with fake scenarios that you make in your head. Just wait until he's better and talk to him (whether it's at the hospital or after). You have a question? Ask him. Still like him? Confess. Get these questions/feelings off your chest. There's nothing to lose....even if he rejects you (again), you still lose nothing because he was never yours after the break-up. (*Sorry, that came off blunt/strong.)
Sorry, I don't even know anything, so my advice is useless. But remember that at the end of the day, it's you who decides what to do next. Also, sometimes/most of the times our gut is always right. Meaning, if you have a feeling to do something, then do it/ask it/initiate it even if it's not what your friends told you to do. Only you know the relationship between you and him the best. And only you would know what to do at the moment. Do what your gut/inner feeling says. :)
No matter the outcome....be joyful always. :) *Reminder: "joy" does not equal "happy".
Good luck! Wish you the best for your future! :)
