I think I have the method that you can concern to use. I know your situation that you mentioned in the status, and I think I'm a kind of person like you. But now, I can control mysefl better. Beforehand, I want to ask you a question, Have you ever readed a book named "How to stop worrying and start living" by Dale Carnegie. In the book, he said that if you was worrying about something, you just sit down, took a paper and wrote some suggestion following by:

If you accept that you are not perfect, if you can't show your everything you have, you will lost everything. Now I also have trouble about verbalizing, but I have change myself because I know I have values and my ability is useful.

You ignore your concernment and limit thinking alot, you just go straight ahead. For 1 week, 1 mouth ... you look at yourself, you will realize that you will be more confident and your value is richer.

If you want, we can chat and help each other better :)))

Thank you so much for your supportive comments, everyone!

I came up with this discussion topic because I faced so many situations that made me realize how important "self-esteem" is. Without self-esteem, it is very hard to carry out anything we want to do.

It is said that Japanese people tend to have low self-esteem, and I believe this might be true. I suspect that the Japanese education itself including parenting and schools or maybe Japanese culture itself might be key factors for being less confident on ourselves. This is because Japanese value "harmony". In order to keep harmony, they often keep their honest feeling in their mind or show their humble attitude toward others so that they do not create any bitter feelings of others. I assume that trying not to get a big head to maintain "harmony" consequently reduces self-esteem of Japanese people.

How much do you have your self-esteem? Is it higher or lower comparing to people in other countries? Do you think is it depending on individuals or nationalities? I would love to hear your opinion.