“If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.”--Albert Einstein “

Should you give up your dreams to be with someone you love? It's a tough question, isn’t it? For ambitious people, This is actually easier to answer. They will choose their dreams. Often in life, you are given two choices to be with someone you love or to do what you love. I would actually choose the latter. It should not be lonely on top but to be able to reach your goals, it will require a tremendous amount of sacrifices. For career women and men, this a choice they often face, and I am not excluding myself. If you have a chance to go to Oxford University and not a lot of people are given that chance, and your partner cannot join you in a foreign country; are you going to choose Oxford or your boyfriend? “Goals like relationships need commitment.” If you have goals, it is not an easy path, especially if you have big goals. For most parts of my life, I saw women gave the most sacrifices in relationships. I saw my mom gave up her dreams for our dreams. I saw my friends give up their careers for their husbands. I saw women slowly drift away until their looks fade and their opinion is no longer heard. But now, times have changed. More women are choosing their careers and themselves first. Is it good or bad? I think it all depends on your context of happiness. Einstein once said, “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” People can leave you but your goals are yours. In recent years, I have applied this concept in my life.

Today, I spoke to a young woman with big goals, and she is aware that her goals require sacrifices. She is young, talented, beautiful and with a bright future ahead of her. Despite her love for someone, she chose her goals, and I saw it in her eyes, aside from the fact that she verbalized that her goals are far more important. Although of course, our loved ones make us happy, our friends make us happy, but it is also good to remember that our goals and achieving them make us happy. In achieving goals, comes great sacrifices. As I bid farewell to this ambitious young lady, I said the exact words that Einstein said: “ “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things.” And I added, “ To reach your goals, opportunities like that can only come once in your lifetime. " Go for it, young lady."

”Should you give up your dreams to be with someone you love?