Florian K.
Professional Teacher
Tom and Jerry: Are conflicts necessary for relationships?
Conflicts can cause stress in a relationship and sometimes they can result in serious repercussions, it can be a breakup, a big fight or a silent war. However, when we think about it, conflict is also necessary to make a relationship healthy. Just imagine a relationship without conflict, you agree about everything and even if there is something wrong, you don’t talk about it. Conflict can help initiate the changes that need to be done and also, it allows you to see that your lives are interdependent. Imagine two independent people getting married. The greatest challenge independent people face in relationships is to be dependent and interdependent. When we live alone, it is not necessary to adjust to others because you are living alone. You have freedom, you can do what you want and so on. In a relationship (whatever form it may be), you must take into consideration other people. You must think about how they feel, how your actions will affect the other person. Sometimes conflict arises when a decision or an action benefits one over the other.

  There are two things that are important to see if conflicts are more helpful or not. Communication is a very important in solving conflicts and it is important to resolve conflicts before it gets big. If one party fails to communicate, failure can result, which means a breakup, a divorce and annulment or the worst is breakup that can never be fixed. The time it takes to resolve a conflict depends on the people involved, it can take years or just a few days if you are lucky. In my life, I have seen best friends become enemies, love birds become strangers and families being broken apart.

    Now my title shows, “Tom and Jerry” because they literally hate each other. I remember a scene when Jerry was dying and Tom was trying to save his life. Tom hated Jerry all his life, he wanted to kill him. So, I was surprised to see him weeping when Jerry was dying. It is similar to relationships, a relationship is not always about “love,” it consists of different emotions. Conflict needs resolution, communication, less pride and ego. If a person has too much ego and pride then that would be a problem. I remember two close friends being best friends and eventually lovers. I saw them grow in love in front of my eyes. I also saw them break apart. They allowed minor fights become big ones which resulted in them not talking to each other forever. I remember a time when they would visit me in my city together. Now, they visit me separately. Ironic, isn’t it? The end result lies in your hands. There are benefits of course but how it affects you depend on you.

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Nov 29, 2019 9:28 AM
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Florian K.
Language Skills
Chinese (Mandarin), English, Filipino (Tagalog), Finnish, Other
Learning Language
Chinese (Mandarin), Finnish, Other
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