I am not sure if it is right to talk about things like that on italki. But I really need a way or a space for me to express myself now that I am in a very bad mood. :(
Did you ever encounter with that situation? Someone of your friends at work always talk to you about others bad things or bad charactor (he or she thinks),telling their gossips behind their backs? I am totally and ratherly rebelled about it, I don't want to hear about that, I'm definatly not a good listener concering matters like that and I hate to hear something negative.
It's really to much for me.
May I ask for some advice for handling such kind of troubles? I will be very thankful.
Move on, You can't make them change, step aside.
Vivianne I perfectly agree with you...I don't like people that speak bad about others. I think that the main reason why someone do it is because he wants to influence your opinion.
you can agree with him and then say maybe it's not a good idea to bad talk somebody
Thank you to all of you. It was a great relief to speak it out and thanks a lot to you all for helping me and your idea.
I feel much better now and I believe I will find myself a good way to manage it. :)
( Warning : Be careful . . . Silly man wrote this comment . . . stay save and don't read it )
about friends who talk about people behind their backs . . . you have to choose one of those ways:
1 - put your finger in his/her eyes . . . and give him/her a slap on his/her face ,
2 - try to record the conversation & blackmailing him/her later,
as you know . . . you can take money from them always . . . you can make him/her as your slave . . . asking them to do everthing for you . . . and there is no problem to give him/her a slap on his/her face from time to time,
3 - or you can put a serious look on your face, and tell him/her that :
( If you don't stop doing that, I will end any relation with you . . . and I will tell them what you just said . . . and I am very serious about that )
Trust me . . . Never share in such a conversation, even if by silence or listening,
but the most important thing . . . do you make the same thing ?
be honest with yourself . . . and if the answer ( yes, some times )
then, you should start your own first, before complaining from others, right?
