'Put her in her place' means exactly that, to put something in it's place, but it is used as in 'taught her a lesson'. For example, if two people are fighting, the one who won might say, "I put her in her place." This is often misused and is common slang. On the other hand, 'put yourself in my place' means to think like I would, to see it from my point of view. It is a way of justifying your actions. I hope this helps :)

A servant: Mrs. Smith, I think that your children need more discipline. Mrs. Smith: I pay you to clean the house, not to tell me how to raise my children. A servant: Yes, ma'am. I apologize. Mrs. Jones (Mrs. Smith's friend): Well, you put her in her place! Mrs. Smith: Nowadays, many servants don't know their place. Mrs. Jones: Ah, so true! ***** Tom: How come you never come to my parties? Don't you like me? Mona: Of course, I like you. But just put yourself in my place: I work 8 hours a day, I go to night school, and I have a husband and child to take care of. Do you think that I have time to go to parties? Tom: You're right. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't have time for parties, either.

'Put her /(him) in her /(him) place' means reminding someone of her/ his real worth or status (place=worth or status). Usually this is used when someone is acting beyond she/ he is supposed to by social norm/ custom to humble her/ him down. For e.g. if servant is passing orders like a master someone can remind her that she is a servant not master hence not supposed to pass orders but follow them. 'Put yourself in my place' is asking for empathy. It means asking someone to imagine if he/ she would have been at your place and share your feelings. It's usually used when your words or actions are not understood by someone who has never been what you are going through. For e.g. you may seem insane spend tons of yuans on a football match but if you have extreme passion for it that may be justified. Now you want other to think what they would have done if they shared that extreme passion (and hope that they now don't take you for an insane;-)).

I'll start with the easy one. "Put yourself in my place" simply means "think about it from my perspective". You'll also hear this as the idiom, "put yourself in my shoes". There's another expression, "to know your place". It means to know where you should be in the greater situation: your status, and what behaviour is appropriate for you. A person who doesn't know his or her place is arrogant and argumentative. So, "to put her in her place' (or him in his place) means someone did or said something to make her realise that she was being arrogant or argumentative, and that she should shut up and behave.