marriage is a commitment - two people committing to each other, forming a unit. if you are not clear about who and what you are, you are not ready for a commitment to another person. start by knowing yourself, what you want in life and were you want to be. Find someone who has done the same introspection and if these two people with direction want to share that journey with each other, then discuss marriage as opposed to going it alone. Love? that is a bonus but it is where we usually start. Unfortunately, love is blind!