First, a quick culture note: for historically-stigmatized groups, the adjective form sounds much, much more polite than the noun.
"A black, a Jew, a gay, and a mute" sounds offensive.
"A black man, a jewish woman, a gay man, and a woman who is mute" sounds much better.
There are a wide number of differences between male and female speech. There are several voice coaches who specialize in helping transgender people speak in the manner of the gender they identify with instead of the one they were born with. You can watch some of those videos to learn some of the differences.
In general, women (and some gay men) use a wider variety of linguistic techniques than men do. Things often done by women but rarely done by straight men include:
1. vocal fry
You can google all those terms.
Finally, speaking with a lisp is often associated with gay men. Not all gay men lisp, and not everyone with a lisp is gay, but there is still a good deal of overlap in those communities.