Deedrio
Community Tutor
Hello Teachers/Tutors! I have some questions: 1. How do you deal with a tween or teen in particular when you realize that you have been set up with one who clearly has no interest in learning English, and has no say in the matter about being there? 2. Do you have any tips/advice for helping tweens and teens improve their English without having to be incredibly fake energetic with them? It seems like there are some parents on here that sit their children in front of the computer with strangers who speak a language that they have absolutely no interest in learning. From the very few that I've encountered, all but two just had no interest in really trying to learn English. Aside from the two exceptions that I've made since I've stopped accepting sessions with children – one for a 10 year old kid from Israel and one other 8 or 9 year old kid from Germany that specifically chose me and enjoy learning English – I mostly decline sessions with children now. I even kindly make this clear in my main session's description that I would prefer that parents find other tutors who are experienced with children, but inspite of that, I still get requests from parents to teach their children. 🤷🏽‍♂️ Nowadays, I just ask the parents if their child really wants to learn English, or if they are forcing their child to learn English. If their child is not really interested, I politely decline the request and kindly ask the parents to search for a tutor that is more experienced with children. If their child actually really enjoys learning English, and if the child is the one that chooses me him/herself, I'm more inclined to make exceptions. What do YOU do personally when you realize you are faced with a tween or teen that has no interest in learning English? I assume that you would just decide to not do any further sessions with them after the trial is over? Or do you take it as a challenge and actually try to make it work somehow if you receive another request from the parents?
Feb 11, 2021 4:11 AM
Answers · 6
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You may get some helpful answers if you post your question on the private teachers forum. I mostly teach adults and a few teenagers (this is a better fit for my personality). I don't "teach" English, but I engage my students in conversation about their lives and about topics that I can connect to their lives, and I include mini-lessons for grammar and vocabulary as needed. I follow a general plan for improving their conversation, reading, and writing. Usually, the progress is obvious week after week and the students have an enjoyable time talking and writing about themselves (the lessons don't feel like "school"). I have dropped a few teenage students who wouldn't participate. I just told the parents that the chemistry was wrong and perhaps another teacher would be right for their child. I have worked with a few young children (reluctantly, but the child was a younger sibling of an existing student ...). In general, I prefer to redirect the parents to a teacher who specializes in children.
February 12, 2021
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Hello Deedrio, I am new to this community but I was an educator in America's public education system for several years and I want to make it clear that while the situation is different on a few notes, perhaps I can help you in the handling of parents and perhaps with building a child's interest, even if it doesn't work out. The experience can perhaps help you shape future encounters. Let's begin with the parents. First, you have to make it abundantly clear to the parents that while you are willing to hear their proposal. Forcing a child to do anything, even if it is for their future is detrimental to not only their child's future in of itself, but to them as well. If a child has no interest in the language, then perhaps there is a chance to overlap their personal interests with that of the topic. Forcing the child to be there will only make them resent the language and the possibilities it will bring. I taught in the inner-city schools and the first issue I encountered with a child in the topic of learning was relevance. If the child you attempting to teach sees a subject they have no interest in, that will be difficult because it is not relevant in the mind of a child. For example I had a little girl who was latina, and she didn't relate to the subject I was teaching in Spanish because she had no idea what it was like to go to the beach. The girl was from mexico and could not relate to her own language based off of her experiences, she was in 2nd grade. Another was an 8th grade who didn't want to learn math because she thought she had no future with the subject. Had to teach her about buying more with less in more than a few sessions. My advice to you is to speak with the parent, ask them what the child enjoys and perhaps try to find a way to overlap what this child enjoys in their personal time such as a hobby or an interest. How I taught a few of my kiddos is that I asked them on the first day, what they enjoyed. And each week, we had a day to incorporate it.
February 11, 2021
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I'd tell that to parents and if they still insist on firther classes, would take the challenge and try to make my class more interesting with pics, videos, games
February 11, 2021
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Also I apologize for the grammatical mistakes, fitting everything inside was difficult with only 2000 characters.
February 11, 2021
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