Behnoush
All native English people i found them here were disappeared after a short time. This is so strange for me: why this members after a short time are deactivate or removed! Despite we had a good conversation that so useful for me. Do they don't have any motivation for keeping on the communication? in your opinion what should I do to have a native partner for at least a month?
May 22, 2019 3:36 AM
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That's simply not true on all counts. I'm British, a professional teacher here on Italki and am in  a happy relationship. 
May 22, 2019

First of all, you are lucky that you found any native speaker, and you mentioned you found several, so you are happy! Many people here have never spoken with a native speaker. 

Second, on this site, there are a lot of scammers, and probably you are happy again because somebody reported them and their accounts ware closed and they didn't do for you any harm.

So, as you see everything is good,  you will have other partners again, it takes time to find a good partner. At the moment you can practice your language with non-native speakers.

Good luck!

May 22, 2019
I think it's probably natural. You would have to be lucky to find someone who wants to just speak. Since a native speaker doesn't get anything back except a friendship, which isn't something bad, but you can find friends everywhere. I don't like when someone is looking for a partner though, this is not a dating site. The thing is, either be open for a non-native speaker so you can both learn simultaneously or pay a tutor. They will "have to" talk to you :)
May 22, 2019

first of all I should say that Iranian people can't have any teacher or tutor (because we don't have any access to Foreign banks and we can't have any Foreign bank account so we can not pay any $ to them)

talking to natives doesn't have any benefits for them except friendship.(so maybe they don't want to last in a friendship for a long time or even start it)

and also there is so many people who wants to talk with natives.(so maybe they can't handle such a huge friendship request)

i think it would be better to find non-native ones :)

May 23, 2019
If they were deactivated or the profile removed, it may be that they were reported by many people as potential scammers. There seems to have been a rise in the number of profiles of fake native English speakers : people who used typical-sounding American names and fake photos, but who aren't native speakers. It's obvious if you speak English as your native language, but perhaps not so obvious to people who are learning English.

The other possibility is that people simply didn't want to keep up a message exchange with a stranger. I'll admit that I've stopped replying sometimes, not because I disliked the person, but language exchange is not a priority for me, and it's easier just to stop writing. If I make a grandiose statement such as "I'm so sorry to have to stop replying to your messages", it can seem pompous, as though I think the person is desperately waiting for a response and I have to appease them with apologies. It's just a normal part of exchanges with strangers that we should get used to: people stop replying for no real reason, all the time. The main one is that they have other priorities.

This reminds me of the ghosting phenomenon in the U.S. These aren't just total strangers writing to each other online, but people who have been on one or more dates. One person loses interest or gets a better offer, and "ghosts" the other person, that is, disappears with no follow-up, further text messages or phone calls, or replies. Yeah, it's frustrating, and people claim they always want to know "Why? What did I do wrong?" but I don't think they'd really want the answer. The person lost interest, that's all, or maybe someone more compatible came along. I don't think it really makes it better to know for certain they found someone else more attractive.

I wouldn't take it personally.
May 22, 2019
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Behnoush
Language Skills
Azeri, English, French, Persian (Farsi), Turkish
Learning Language
Azeri, English, French, Turkish