My family My family is composed of 4 members: B, my husband, is 43 years old; he is employee; D, my eldest son, is 6 years old, next September he will start the primary school. A, my youngest daughter, currently in pre-school, is 4 years old. And me; I’m Mara and I’m 40 years old and work as computer consultants. As in each family there are ups and downs. Before having the part-time in my home there were very chaos and confusion. Me and my husband were in error about the organization of our family. D is who gives me more problems because he is often jealous of his sister and I'm very severe with him and I have fear of exaggerating. A eats few kind of foods therefore the meals becomes a fight because I refuse to cook others ones. I don’t know if it is the age but she is very lazy. My husband is the good Householder and he loves much our children but he is less patience than me. I would like he to replace me when I 'm too tire to fight with our children but often he worsens the things. To improve the family conditions the last year I decided to attend a course for family. This is the second year we have attended farfamiglia course and our family life is improved. We have done the biggest work on our-self (me and my husband): • Before scolding them we try to understand the motive and to talk with them. • We demand only behavior related their age, first we didn’t know the phases of the age. • When they throw a tantrum we let them eat their frustration and then we explain the reasons. • We try to point out their good behaviors not those negative ones. • I read more books about the argument. I hope all my diligence will be rewarded. I would want that my children would be happy and conscientious. I would like that they will find a good job and create a beautiful family. I wants they would be satisfied. After all I don’t ask anything strange. Often I ask me how my life would have been if I hadn’t had a family I should have taken my decisions alone instead now I have somebody that help me to take ones. No more solitude, no more privacy The sons make me proud and satisfy, but they demand the same. The rhythms and priorities change. No more gym, no more hanging out with the buddies. The work increases but when the results are good you are really satisfied With the family you write the future but its is heavy responsibility