A house-husband I have been a house-husband for the last month, and I think I was enjoying it.:) My mother-in-law who used to take care of my new born daughter had sprained her waist one month ago, the doctor said she had to stay in bed before the situation getting better. My wife had to go back to work since her maternity leave had finished. so It was my turn to stand up to be a full time father. It is really tough at the beginning. I have no idea how to take care of a baby. so much to learn ! but I'm a fast learner, my wife tell me I have done a good job. it could be exhausting. but most of time there are so much fun ! A baby could make you feel real happy some times. one challenge is I have to re-skedule my routine in this situation. I have no full time for English learning recently. but I believe I can find my way anyway. I set a goal for myself. Let's see if I could work it out !

Top 5 dream careers I can't complain about my life, I have never been worried too much about education and finance. but I can't say I'm totally happy about my position in this world. I always dream something else. I often image if I chose a different path in some crucial moment of my life ,what would my life be? and here is my top 5 dream life. 1, a success fiction writer with a minor reputation. 2, a middle size cafe owner who run business together with family. 3, a dentist 4, a good football player who win some championships. then became a coach in a college after retired. 5, a professor in a small university

what is meaning of "make good with someone"? I'm not sure what is this means? my dictionary told me this means "be a good company with someone?" but I doubt it's means the contrast. so please help if anyone knows it .thanks for all the reply, here is the reason why I get confused: I watched a movie "black sea", which is about a guy who got fired by his company, then he tried to do something so he could prove what his employer did to him was totally unfair and "they" can fuck off. but the storyline in IMDb is this :" In order to make good with his former employers, a submarine captain takes a job with a shadowy backer to search the depths of the Black Sea for a submarine rumored to be loaded with gold." so obviously in this case "make good with"doesn't mean "make a good a company", does it mean " fulfil" ?

whiplash yesterday I watch a movie called "whiplash", which is great and impressive! but the whole storyline make me not entirely comfortable, actually I can't decide if Fletcher is a good teacher or just a bad ass. The question which I want to asked is :" How far is too far to push a person to become the greatest?" I think there are two kinds of believing in this world , one is "you will success if you work hard enough, and you have to keep working if you are not success" . and the other is " nothing is guaranteed, if you are not in the right direction ,more hard working , more damage done." this is one of the biggest confusion in my life, I don't know which one is the truth of the life. sometimes I thinks maybe first one is right, I need to punch myself harder. no pain no gain ,right ? and after somedays hard working ,I began self-doubting. It is obvious that you can't became a NBA player no matter how hard you work on yourself , isn't it? and then several days later, I begin accuse myself :" oh , you are so good at finding excuse! you lazy boy!" and this circulation keeps going on and on... this is really upset me, because I even don't know how to educate my daughters, when I encourage them doing something , I even can't convince myself. does it really worth it? what if this whole effort are just wasting of time? what if she is suppose to become a great painter while I insisted on keep practising piano just because she has already spent a year on it ? I'm still working on it ,hope someone can help me with this.

Do you have a selective syndrome ? I went to a KFC to have a lunch with my coworkers just three hours ago, It took me 15 minutes to decide which hamburger I should take, my friends made fun of me , one of them said I have a selective syndrome, and another one contradicted that there is no such thing like selective syndrome, the only reason that you can't make a choice is that you are just not rich enough ! and we discussed this topic till the end of the lunch. In retrospect, I do have difficulty to make a decision when I faced a multi-choiced situation. and I believe that it's not because of lacking of money. In fact, I'm richer than most of my friends, I buy an apartment without mortgage loan and I drive a BMW, but still I feel anxious when I have to make a choice between a latte and a mocha. most of time I will leave this to my friends who were with me in this kind of situation. and my parent said it is because I lack of courage to live with the consequence if i made a wrong choice, I think maybe they are right. A typical situation is when I have to pick a road in a three-way intersection. I would really feel bad if I encounter a traffic jam on the way I have picked, I would keep telling myself:"oh,shit , so stupid, I really should go the other way because it is obvious that way won't have so many cars. " I think it is one of the side-effect of the capitalism, we have to face so many choice at everyday ,even every hour. I don't feel entirely comfortable about this even though I knew it is one of the greatest part of modern society. we always have choices, economically, politically, whateverly. but maybe sometimes we have gone too far. and I don't believe we can always make our own decision without depending other's opinions. there is no such things like free choice. think about this, you got a cancer, your doctor told you that there are two kinds of way to treat it ,echo one has its own benefit and risk, and they are both almost equal 50/50. what was your choice? I would ask doctor "what is your choice if you were me?" and it will really upset me if he answer me with this :" I can't tell you that because I'm not you."

when you stop making new friends? First of all , I have a very clear definition on friends, when I say someone is my friend, I mean we understand and support each other in lot of ways, We forgave each other when we done something wrong and we literally can say anything to each other and don't need to care each other's feeling, I mean I do set a line to friendship, above this line, we are friends, under that , we are just acquaintances or strangers. That is me. Like everyone else, I made my first few friends from school, I can't recall what happened turn a classmate into a friend, naturally you got a buddy who were willing to fiddle about with you all daylong. and those feelings faded gradually when we separated after graduation. those who were willing to stay contacted with became fewer and fewer. Then I got a lot of workmates, some got along with me, some got on my nerves, unfortunately, few of them became my friends, we disappeared from each other's life without consciousness. Of course, I encounter people in my everyday life, but I find it become harder and harder to make new friends, sometimes I bump into someone seems really a good person , we have a good conversation and we have a lot of common hobbies, we even have the same world view. but after the separation , I can't convince myself to call him again to build a new friendship ,I just feel it is too much trouble and I guess I'm a little afraid of we will disappointed each other if we get to know better. so in my case , I stop making new friends when I turned into 30, my number of friends stay in 6,and I read a article said it is the maximum a man can handle in his life. I'm not sure about that and I hope I have no social problem, I'm too old to change myself.

5 key words to any country

Thanks for the invention of the internet, we can learn something about a country really easy and fast if you want , you can get some friends even you never set a food in where they are living. and I guess we are first generation who believe globalisation is possible and a good thing for human beings. so generally I can say we are living in the most acquainted time ever.
Even so, most of us get impression about other country through some stereotype, like you will think about Castro and cigar whenever anyone said Cuba. and I think there do have some points in it. so can you please tell me top 5 key words which can represent some part of your own country and some other countries?
To me, I come up with "great wall", "history" ,"reform“,"communism" and "diligent" when I think of China.
"hollywood","new York" ,"capitalism" ,"liberalism" and "army" are top 5 words go with America to me.
"big","vodka","intrepid","Starlin"and "putin" go with Russia.
"pop culture","samsung","pickle" ,"plastic surgery"and "patriotic" go with south Korea.

Some of these key words are positive, some are negative , I apoligize first if I said something offensive, I just want to konw how people look at each other's countries in such a modern time.

You can write down any words pop into your mind when you think of a certain country , thanks and apologize again if some words are improper or prejudiced.

what kind of super power you want most?

I belong to the generation which grow up with comic books and super hero movies, It is one of my daydreams that I have a sort of super power like invisibility or ability to fly. 

Suppose your life expectancy is 80, and you can exchange your last ten years with a god to for a super power, which kind of super power is you most wanted ? and why?

to me , I want the ability to mind-reading most , I think it could give me a lot of advantage in competitions and save me from a lot of unnecessory troubles and misunderstandings, also it help me to understand those who loves me better. that would be cool.

Earth Hour Every last saturday in March, there was a famous movement called "earth hour", which requires you to turn off your non-essential in-door lights to save energy for the earth. It has become such an influential and fashionable movement that even in suzhou there are a lot of people were talking about it. some of them were actually doing it. but I didn't because I never liked this kind of idea. here is the reasons. First, I don't believe it will really save any energy for just turn off your light for merely one hour. I think it is useless. second, my friend argued with me that this kind of movement could awake average people to realise how serious our earth's pollution has become. but I don't like this kind of implication that you can resolve a huge complicated problem like save earth by such a simple way. It could be dangerous to simplify a question. the third, I also don't like the implication that to stop using modern technology is a effective way to save earth and good thing to human being.no ! no way ! technology is the most important key for human beings to survive in the future. I can't believer that go back to the primitive life will guarantee us a better tomorrow. so ,I turn the all lights on for one hour to celebrate this wonderful invention of Edison!