meaning of "dealing with my own sh*t"? In Looking(HBO) Patrick: You guys, thanks so much for letting me come. I'm not sure what it says about me that I'm going to your dad's funeral who I never even met when I should be at home dealing with my own sh*t. (Patrick broke up with his boyfriend recently and went off on his friends at halloween party.) Doris: Well, I don't give a sh*t why you came. I appreciate it. What does it mean "what it says about me" and "dealing with my own sh*t" in this context? If you could help me understand these lines, I'd really appreciate it :)